Changing the way we live our life can seem overwhelming.
We may want to change our relationship with our spouse, our children, our boss, our friends, or our neighbors.
We may want to change our health. This could be as simple as taking care of our emotional or physical health. It could mean losing weight, changing doctors, or starting an exercise routine.
We may want to start improving ourselves. This may mean becoming more educated, learning about different things in the world, or as simple as spending less time in front of a television.
We may want to help others. This could mean becoming a volunteer, it could mean creating a foundation to solve a world problem, or it could mean changing how we do our job – instead of being a doctor in an office, we become a doctor who only visits elderly patients in their home.
We may want to have more things in life. This could mean increasing our salary, improving the revenues for our company or just focusing our spending in a different way.
All of these changes are based on a goal but will be large and complex.
Sometimes we decide to change and sometimes circumstances force us to change.
We are familiar with the overweight guy who has the heart attack and became a fitness junky. The smoker who quits. The alcoholic who stops drinking. The person who finds Gd and gives up taking advantage of people. Or lastly, the rake who finds love.
We all know that each and everyone of us can change.
In my post How Do You Know If You Need To Make A Change I provided some questions to ask yourself if you needed to make a change.
Now lets address the question of how to start the change process.
Each of the changes I have described above will effect the people in our life.
Once we embark on these changes, life will change in ways that we never expected. Sometimes for the good and sometimes for the bad. People whom we thought supportive will disappoint us. People whom we ignored will become important.
We will have thoughts and ideas that will astound us.
Many successful people don’t feel successful but in reality are very successful. There are the people whom are very successful, feel successful, but to the outside world they seem to be missing many of the trappings of success.
Success is really about feeling successful. If we feel successful then we are.
The start to change must start with tiny simple steps.
The first change must be something that is simple. Each change after that must also be simple. Only after we look back at the string of changes, will we realize how far we have come.
The first change must come from inside.
The first change must be a change in attitude.
The first change must be the decision to change.
Here is a new change in attitude to help.
Measure Your Success By Your Own Priorities
Do you ever say what “Mom, Dad, Sis, the boss, Fred, John, or Susy” might have to say? Do you worry about what “people” will say?
By and large – taking control of one’s life is the largest challenge people face.
It is insidious. Worrying about others destroys lives.
I do not recommend that you separate yourself from your community. I do not recommend that you start doing things outside community norms.
People need you and you need people.
I am recommending that you listen to yourself speak and make decisions about yourself based on your goals and your priorities.
Once you are clear on your goals and priorities, then decide how to implement them and be sensitive to the impact they will have.
DO NOT BACKDOWN once you have started.
I am not suggesting that you don’t look for advice and ideas from your family and friends. People, especially strangers, can have great insights. But, if they in any way try to stop you, then I suggest that you ignore their advice.
If you limit your life because it’s not acceptable to your friends, then I recommend you changing your friends. Don’t cut them off – just drift to people whom agree with you.
Priorities are clear and measurable and help us meet our Goals.
Find out what your priorities are.
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